As someone with high self-confidence, I feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, I find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. My relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around me comfortable too. Perhaps because I feel comfortable talking about myself, others tend to enjoy being around me and perceive me as socially competent.
The confidence that helps me feel comfortable talking to people also spills into my own personal beliefs about myself. Although I have several strengths, I also acknowledge and accept my weaknesses. But unlike some people, I take full responsibility for my actions—I rarely regret things I’ve done in the past and I’m not embarrassed easily.
Perhaps the defining feature that sets me apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that I set for myself. My competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, people come to me for advice and generally think of me as someone with leader-like qualities.
As someone who is oriented to familial matters, I value the company of family-members and domestic life. I enjoy spending time with my child very much and work hard to be a good parent. And my preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home eased the transition into parenthood.
I take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by my preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.
What really sets me apart from people that are low in family orientation is that I know how to manage my frustrations and work well on my own. This means that I am well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear me down.
The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and my degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, I find that I do or say things that may be inappropriate.
As someone who exerts little control over my actions, I find that I commit social blunders that might offend other people and get nyself in trouble. For example, if I’m given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, I might overlook important details because I have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, I might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in myself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks is an effective way to manage my own stress level.
Low self-control sometimes diminishes my effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for me to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, my ability to accomplish can sometimes be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that I might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, I still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.
As someone high in openness, I have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. I am easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of my openness is my emotional insight; I have good access to and awareness of my own emotions.
My tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, my openness makes it easier for me to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as I am. In contrast, I get bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, I have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.
Easygoingness refers to one’s ability to relax. I appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, I find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make my life difficult, but also the lives of the people around me. Another problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it provides me with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.
High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, seems to diminish my effectiveness at work, for example. I find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, my colleagues view me as forgetful and unfocused.
How does my personality affect my love life?
With the strong degree of self-confidence that I possess, it’s no surprise that I get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. My social skills will help relieve any anxiety my romantic partners might have on those first few dates.
Given how much I value family life, I get along best with people who share my values and beliefs. In fact, I maintain close connections with members of my immediate and distant family. For this reason, I would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.
Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet I will find this tiring over time.
As someone who is more relaxed than most people, I get along with most people quite well. My friends and colleagues perceive me as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, I’m attracted to most people. However, my free-spirited nature makes being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than me difficult because I perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.
My openness makes it easy for me to respect and appreciate people that are different from me. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, my openness might make it difficult for me to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as me. Therefore, I’m happiest in serious relationships with people that share I’m open-mindedness. But, my openness occasionally causes a certain degree of dependency on my end because I can be so open that I easily adopt the preferences and habits of my partners and gradually relinquish things that make me so unique.